Remembering to remember

As I've mentioned, milestones and firsts come rapidly when you're bringing up children. But what's really interesting are the bits in between. The silly little things that happen all the time. The things that often we make no attempt to record or remember. Here's a great example. My son asked my daughter the following (about 2 hours ago): "Should I go to the skate party or not?".

No big deal. But it suddenly occured to me that it is. My son is nine and my daughter is four and it made me realise that they have become more than just brother and sister, they are friends. My son actually values my daughter's judgement. They continually argue, but for once I saw beyond their silly sibling squabbling.

It's nothing but it's everything. A small thing that's incredibly significant. The sort of realisiation that pops into your head for a second, but because of the distractions of life and, in this case, of driving, disappears because you don't remember to remember.

Of course I had a reason to remember; Memory Pools and this blog. Most people don't. That's why, as Ferg says, we want remembering the little moments to become a reflex action. Something as easy as sending a text. Because when remembering gets that easy, it becomes second nature.